Comments on: SELF Help: The Only Kind There Is

By: Hannah

Hannah — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 21:32:57 +0000

Interesting post, Charlotte. Thanks

While I don’t personally think there is anything wrong with coaching or offering info products online, I *do* think it shows a lack of integrity and honesty for the people producing these services to promise happiness, wealth etc.

However, they are preying on those who want to be rescued in an hour – those want to be happier/have higher self-esteem/have more money but don’t want to look at why they don’t have these things already. In my opinion, consumers of these products and services make a choice: the choice not to know.

Anyone who has been through therapy or other forms of self-work – and done it properly – knows that it takes shit loads of painful, difficult work that an E-Book isn’t going to do for you. On the other hand, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with using products and services along to way to further your development – as long as you don’t rely on them to change things only you yourself can change.
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By: Naomi Niles

Naomi Niles — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 21:11:11 +0000

I think I’m with you on this one. Personally, for me, the reason I’d hire a coach is for the motivational aspect. You get that accountability factor and maybe a cheerleader and that really does help some people. Plus, some people really need that reassurance or an objective eye to look over everything, like you say.

On the other hand, it’s way too easy to buy products and more products and listen to people all day long and not actually move off your butt. You think you’re doing something productive, but really are just using it as a way to delay actually doing something and putting yourself out there.

All that said, sometimes the best way to move forward is just do it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. When it doesn’t, you try something else and then you keep trying until it works for you.
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By: Wulfie

Wulfie — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:17:30 +0000

Yup, I agree. I’ve been perusing all sorts of these ‘guru’ type sites. Sure, some speak in a voice that you can respond to and that helps YOU make the leap you need to make. But is’ all in what we do with the info we’re given. I resist buying stuff. I get just as much out of just reading other people’s words on something I’m struggling with. Then again, I make even fast progress if I tell everyone I’m looking up to, to eff off. lol

It’s a pyramid scheme, like twitter. Gathering followers, tweeting each others stuff, or retweeting, and I get that as a marketing device, but it’s still a pyramid scheme. Just my two cents.

Good blog.

By: Nathalie Lussier

Nathalie Lussier — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 16:19:08 +0000

I think that’s an interesting point of view. I find that a coaching relationship can be really useful because so few of us have a place where we can be the “center of attention” for say 1 hour… where someone will listen, and just allow you to get through your own stuff. I mean you pay them so that you don’t ruin your relationship with your friends or partner, who might get sick of hearing you talking about a particular “stuck” topic.

That being said… it totally leads into your point of view! It’s really YOU who is doing the work, and you who is helping yourself. You just happen to have gone to someone to have a safe space to discover your own magic juju.

And yes some of those hypey-magic bullet type things where you’ll be making money overnight… not so cool.

I love that you bring this up, because nothing you buy is ever going to “Save” you. You’re the only one who can do that!
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